Sep 9th

Shared-meal rituals–not just for families–helping to keep couples out of divorce court

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Ever look up at the end of a long work week and realize you feel detached from your spouse or partner?

Post work-week blur do you wonder, “How’s he or she doing? What was his or her week like?”

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You sigh, admitting to yourself that you have absolutely no idea.

Our workplace tasks seem to grow like weeds that keep popping up.
To be in command of the details of our work lives, we extend our workdays into our home…so we can try to keep the weeds from taking over.
We engage in rituals at home like obsessively checking emails on our smartphones, checking/leaving voice messages, signing into our laptops to finish Excel spreadsheets, doing Skype work conferences.
Meanwhile our spouse or partner is at home in another room doing the same thing.
Darn. Those pesky weeds are winning.
We’re missing connection with the people who matter most.

How can we tend to the garden of our relationships?

A recent Time.com article about the science of what makes marriages work reports that what keeps marriages going strong is…

...really knowing each other,
…being in contact with the details and facts of each other’s lives,
…and keeping updated on changes taking place in our spouse or partner’s lives, including their feelings.

Without this type of time together, experiencing each other, communicating, being….
We’ll lose touch.
We’ll become strangers.
We’ll grow apart.

To keep a marriage or relationship strong, we have to take the time to actively care for each other. 

To nourish the bond between us.

We need to find a way to connect.

Daily.

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My advice?

Create (or renew) a shared-meal ritual. Plan to share 1 meal a day with the people you love.

Turn off the devices and turn on your attention–giving and getting–the details about each other.

Give each other nourishment and sunshine your relationship needs via your meals together.

Celebrate your next anniversary with something you’ve created from your very own garden...with what else? A beautiful display of Forget-Me-Nots…

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If you’d like to keep your marriage (and all your relationships) strong, share a meal daily!  Click here to learn about my  book The Shared-Meal Revolution.

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